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Q:
Who should participate in The Change Habitualization Program?
A:
The
program is open to anyone who is serious about their personal
growth and wishes to make meaningful, lasting changes.
It
doesn't matter what the specific changes you seek to make - whether
it's in the domain of health, like changing negative habits like
smoking or taking up a positive habit like exercising or eating
healthy... or in the domain of relationships, like controlling
your negative emotions or amplifying the positive ones... or in
the domain of your work like stopping distractions, disorganization
and being more focused, more organized ... etc.
We
have worked with all types of change efforts, as the program is
customized to whatever change you seek to make - in the context
of your life. We will support you to think more precisely about
the change you want and then set up a habitualization plan for
making it happen.
From
our experience this usually has attracted positive, already successful
individuals, who seek to improve a particular aspects of their
lives - so we've worked with managers, teachers, scientists, various
types of service personnel, IT specialists, health care providers,
artists, performers, entrepreneurs and so on. In essence, anyone
who wants to be a better person, to improve an aspect of their
life and release more of their potential.
Q:
What's so different about The Change Habitualization Program,
from all other options available?
A:
All
this is explained in-depth on the page about joining
the program.
But
I would like to add to this, that what is unique about the The
Change Habitualization Program, is that it offers a profound
understanding of your fundamental capacity for excellence and
personal achievement. This is a program that puts fundamentals
first.
Furthermore,
in 'The Four Faculties" members
web, you have set up in a cohesive unit, all the essential
habits for Greatness. There
are no programs that we are aware of, that give you all the proven
and time tested essentials, in such a package.
The
Change Habitualization Program will help you to put a self-actualizing
philosophy, into action. Through exercises, meditations
and coaching sessions, you'll gain experientially the
sense of empowerment which many books talk about, but fail to
show you 'how to internalize'.
Q:
What's so important about this program, when there are so many
other personal development courses to choose from?
A:
There
are many other great programs out there and they suit the individual
at whatever stage of their life they are at. I believe there are
no accidents and whatever program you're attracted to or ends
up in your life, it is there for a reason.
In
my opinion, what is essential in all programs, whether they are
in education, personal development, fitness... etc - is a strong
commitment to the fundamentals. You want a program
that utilizes the 80/20 rule - i.e. one that maximizes 'the vital
few vs the trivial many' principle.
The
80/20 principle states that in life, not everything is of equal
value. 20% of all your actions produce 80 of all your results.
Conversely the other 80% produces only 20% of the results.
Most
companies manage according to this principle. They have realized
that about 20% of the faults in a product line are responsible for
80% of the complaints. Through this understanding, they first eliminate
the critical 20% of flaws, and thus have solved 80% of the problems.
By focusing on the most important faults first, they rapidly
improve their quality control.
You
can recognize this principle in your life, when you consider that
in your daily schedule, you probably have about 20% of the
hours that contribute for 80% of your results. And conversely,
the other 80% of your day is spent on more trivial activities
that only produce 20% of your results.
This
program is based on this critical 20-80 principle and I recommend
that if you begin to work with us, to focus on the one change
that will make 80% of the difference. If you don't know what
this is, we'll help you to locate it.
Not
everything is of equal value. It is important that we dedicate
our time and energy on that critical 20%. This is an important
distinction and is only available when working with a customized
program such as this.
Q:
What is the most valuable quality that I must have in beginning
The Change Habitualization Program?
A:
'Courage'
noted Winston Churchill, is 'rightly esteemed
as the first of human qualities because it is the quality which
guarantees all others'. It is from within
courage that all the highest states of being like love, peace
and joy are realized.
At
the beginning of this program, it is inevitable then that doubts
and fears are going to play on your mind. You perhaps might feel
daunted to talk to some stranger about your problem... you might
feel hesitant because you don't know what to expect... you might
be apprehensive whether to trust, whether it's worth it, whether
it will work ... and so on.
But
we must have the courage to go beyond our fears, to try new things,
to feel the fear and do it anyway -- in order to be something
more than our conditioning. The only thing
we have to fear, is fear itself.
For
what is ultimately more scary - having tried and leaned something
in the process or in having fear run you life?
One
thought that has helped me with my own fear of failure, fear of
rejection and so on, was to realize that when I don't ask,
the answer is automatically no. At least if I have the courage
to go forth, I have a possibility for a YES.
Another
important thing to keep in mind, is that the environments in which
we live in - are most often unsupportive of personal growth and
self-actualization. Society on the whole, does not encourage
growth, genius and greatness.
As
almost all philosophers have observed, it is a system that seeks
safety and mediocrity. It teaches conformity. It applies implicit
and explicit force on individuals to be, think and act just like
everyone else. Egos love to believe they're great already
and don't want to have a mirror around, to show their own short
comings...
It
takes courage therefore to also break the mould
that we have implicitly and explicitly placed upon us on who we
can be - on what we should or shouldn't do in this pursuit.
Courage
in often cases is needed in the social dimension too. We
must have the courage to risk criticism, to risk looking 'uncool',
to risk the safety of numbers and in not doing what others think
you should be doing with your life.
This
is actually a major factor for why many betray their 'soul instinct'.
This is a major factor why only a few in each generation
express their genius!
Q:
What is recommended to make this program work best?
A:
To
make this program really work is simple, and yet it is also very
challenging. What makes this program truly transformational is the
willingness to learn with an open mind.
This is often easier said than done.
Since
it's the past perceptions that are often limiting us, learning
with an open mind, means that we don't allow past paradigms
to distort the message 'presented presently'. When we think
we 'already know', we fail to bring sufficient attention,
in order to be affected by the message. When we
judge based upon past learning, we but reinforce the past - and
make little gains from the present.
Remember,
our past mindset and perception is already given.
We always have them to fall back on, because they're automatic.
To
really learn a subject well, we need to consciously suspend
our pre-conceptions, - even if for the time being. The best
learning experiences happen when we allow ourselves to really listen
- presently - as if hearing anew.
This
means that we have to be willing to suspend the paradigms that
we have 'sculptured' our reality with, both good and bad.
Our
greatest fears, are not the fears of the 'unknown', but the fear
of loosing what 'we think we know'.
Therefore
be open to the coaching, the readings and the meditative experiences
here. Observe your own mental patterns and catch yourself
when you're not being present... In that moment,
you have just become present.
Q:
I've participated in other programs and they all made large promises,
but have been disappointed by their results.
What can I expect from this program?
A:
If
you have previously read other self-help books and tried to make
changes only to return to the old habits, you have addressed a
very important point: 'Why are behavioral changes but temporary?'
In
understanding this problem, we have the key to finding an authentic
resolve - for most experience personal changes
as temporary - i.e. as a yo-yoing effect between two states:
the problem state, and the 'idealized state'.
It
doesn't matter in what aspect of life one has tried to make changes
- whether in the domain of physical health, or finances, or
relationships, or learning. This problem is not only common,
but is the core characteristic of 'solutions' that don't
understand, nor address what is inherently problematic.
If
you follow the principles outlined in most self-help books, you
can only expect temporary results. That may be a startling
statement, but it really represents a very common experience.
Why?
Because the solution is almost always partial. When anyone
tries to formulate a structure for changing attitudes or behaviors,
separated from 'the whole', it eventually crumbles, because
it does not take into account the many other forces that come
into play. It fails to understand the context
in which it acts.
Setting
a goal or an affirmation, for the sake of having a direction, doesn't
resolve anything - if not in-line with our rational conscience
and self-awareness.
Without
this context of purpose and awareness of self - goals
are meaningless. We need to directly experience our highest faculties.
It is only within this orientation that mental training
tools can effectively transform anything.
All
this is actually covered in great depth in the workbook of our
program. There are three lessons for example that center on this
issue and how to resolve it.
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